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The Power of Negative Thinking and How to Overcome It

By Remez Sasson

Negative thinking appears to be more prevalent than positive thinking. It seems that with most people, positive thinking requires some effort, whereas, negative thinking comes easily and often uninvited. This has much to do with education and the environment one has been living in.

If you have been brought up in a happy and positive atmosphere, there is more probability that it will be easier for you to think positively. However, If you have been brought up under poor or difficult situations, you will more probably be attracted to negative thinking.

You view the world through your predominant mental attitude. If your thoughts are positive, that is fine, but if they are negative, your life and circumstances would probably mirror these thoughts.

If you believe that you are going to fail, you will unconsciously sabotage every opportunity to succeed. If you are afraid of meeting new people or having close relationships, you will do everything to avoid people and relationships, and then complain that you are lonely and nobody loves you.

The power of negative thinking in action

  • Do you often think about difficulties, failure and disasters?
  • Do you keep thinking about the negative news see and hear on the TV, or read in the newspapers?
  • Do you see yourself stuck and unable to improve your life or your health?
  • Do you frequently think that you do not deserve happiness or money, or that it is too difficult to get them?

If you do, then you will close your mind, see no opportunities, and behave and react in such ways, as to repel people and opportunities.

The mind often, doesn’t judge or examine thoughts and opinions before accepting them. If what it hears, sees and reads is always negative, it accepts this as a standard.

The media constantly bombards the mind with a lot of information about disasters, catastrophes, wars and other unhappy events. This information sinks into the subconscious mind, and then, manifests as your habitual manner of thinking. By occupying the mind with depressing and pessimistic thoughts you radiate negative energy into the surrounding world, and therefore, create and recreate more negativity, failures and disasters.

The mind is neutral energy. The way you think determines whether the results are positive and beneficial, or negative and harmful. It is the same energy acting in different ways.

The good news is that persistent inner work can change habits of thinking. You must be willing to put energy and time to pursue positive thinking, in order to change your mental attitude.

How To Love Yourself Unconditionally

The author of What Are You Hungry For? shows us how to face down our inner critic—and start accepting (and admiring) ourselves for who we are. By Deepak Chopra how to love yourself unconditionally – A mother loves her newborn child without reservation, and romantic love, in its first stages of infatuation, can make the beloved seem perfect. But most of us doubt that love without reservation, love completely forgiving and accepting, exists in our everyday lives. Looking in the mirror, all of us see too many flaws and remember too many past wounds and failings to love ourselves without also putting a limit on that love. In order to expand the love you experience now into unconditional love, you need to involve a spiritual element. There is a path to unconditional love, as with any spiritual aspiration, and on this path there is a beginning, middle and end. Let me describe each a little to give you an idea of how the path unfolds. Beginning: You see yourself as wanting and needing love, usually more than you are receiving. You feel insecure about being lovable, but your ego is there to boost you (or not). You love others, for the most part, according to how much they love you or appeal to your sense of romance, sexuality and compatibility. Relationships involve a constant negotiation between what you want and what your partner wants. The words that apply to this love include the following: passion, attachment, dependency, merging, romance, mutual need, liking and compatibility. Middle: When you aspire to a higher kind of love, ego and neediness begin to count for much less. You feel that love can be a healing force that binds everyone. You can love someone else without needing anything from him or her. Such love begins to be less personal and attached. Your awareness expands, and you feel less insecure. Love becomes more mature and peaceful. Relationships involve mutual appreciation; there are fewer conflicts between two defensive personalities. The words that apply to this love include the following: idealistic, calm, unselfish, giving, empathic, forgiving and accepting. End: When all limitations are left behind, love becomes unconditional. You feel that it emerges from a spiritual source inside yourself. This is more than a feeling; you’ve tapped into a universal aspect of Being. No longer do you have a personal stake in the people you love. Pure compassion is possible now and a sense of belonging to the human family. Relationships involve no struggle or contending needs and wants. Love becomes a self-sufficient state of fulfillment. The words that apply to this love include the following: blissful, transcendent, saintly, luminous, ecstatic and boundless.

How To Believe In Yourself

 

BY LEO BABAUTA

There was a long time when the lack of belief in myself was a major factor in my life.

I didn’t pursue an ideal career, or start my own business, because I didn’t think I could. I didn’t stick to habits because I didn’t really believe I had the discipline. I was shy with girls, I had a hard time making new friends, I didn’t assert myself in the workplace. I didn’t push past my comfort zone.

All because I didn’t really believe I could.

While I’m not free of self-doubt these days, I can honestly say I believe in myself like never before. That doesn’t mean I think I’ll never fail or quit: I will. Probably often.

And that’s OK.

The trick is that I learned it’s completely fine to try and fail, to put yourself out there and not be perfect, to say hello to someone and have them not instantly love you, to create something and have people judge you.

Failure, not being perfect, mistakes, not having people agree with me, not being completely accepted: these are not negative things. They’re positive.

How is failure positive? It’s the only way we truly learn. For example: you can read a book on math, but until you try it and fail, you’ll never see where your lack of understanding is. The best way to learn something is to study it a bit, then try it, take practice tests, make mistakes, then learn some more.

How are mistakes positive? They’re little pieces of feedback necessary to grow and learn.

How is being rejected positive? It means I’m growing beyond the absolutely socially acceptable realm. The best people in history were not socially acceptable: truth-tellers like Socrates, Jesus, Gandhi, Proudhon and Bakunin, Martin Luther King Jr., animal rights philosopher Peter Singer, unschooling pioneer John Holt, women’s rights activists, abolitionists, and many more.

These things we’re afraid of — they’re actually desirable. We need to learn to see them that way, and embrace them, letting go of the fear.

When we can get better at this — which takes a lot of practice — we can start to remove the things that hold us back.

So practice:

Push past your discomfort, growing your discomfort method.Put yourself out there, and be OK with not knowing if people will accept you.Stick to a habit, not listening to the negative self-talk that normally holds you back.Stick to it some more, and learn to trust yourself.Go into situations not knowing, and learn to be OK with that.Learn through repeated attempts that it’s OK to fail, that you can be OK in failure.Learn through repeated experiments that you are stronger than you think, that you are more capable and more tolerant of discomfort than you think.

And in this practice, you will find yourself. And realize that you were great all along.

How to Stop Caring What Others Think of You

Jan 22, 2015 | Updated Mar 24, 2015

Positive thinking: Stop negative self-talk to reduce stress

Positive thinking helps with stress management and can even improve your health. Practice overcoming negative self-talk with examples provided.

By Mayo Clinic Staff

Is your glass half-empty or half-full? How you answer this age-old question about positive thinking may reflect your outlook on life, your attitude toward yourself, and whether you’re optimistic or pessimistic — and it may even affect your health.

Indeed, some studies show that personality traits like optimism and pessimism can affect many areas of your health and well-being. The positive thinking that typically comes with optimism is a key part of effective stress management. And effective stress management is associated with many health benefits. If you tend to be pessimistic, don’t despair — you can learn positive thinking skills.

Happy Thoughts

Think positive, a happy life will follow. When you stop and look around, life is pretty amazing. Saying yes to happiness means, learning how to say no to the things that are negative in your life and people who stress you out. Stay positive will lead to happy thoughts and happiness.

Stay HAPPY&POSITIVE everyday!

Defining happiness is difficult, as happiness is actually a state of mind. What makes you happy may be quite different from what makes your neighbor or your officemate happy. Still, despite being hard to define, there’s something about happiness that has universal appeal. Virtually everyone drives for it, but not everyone will reach it. One recent Harris Poll found that, despite an ostensibly recovering economy, only one in three Americans said they’re very happy, which means, of course, that two out of three are not. Yet, as abstract, and at times as elusive, and happiness may be there are proven ways to make yourself happier and you can do many of the things starting today. 

Some ways to stay HAPPY&POSITIVE

1. Exercise more often is one of the best strategies for overcoming depression. Indeed, it can have a dramatic impact on your mental health.

2. Get proper sleep, a lack of sleep makes it more difficult to recall pleasant memories.

3.Nurture your relationships, friends and family means everything in life, and research shows spending social time with your friends and loved ones generally makes people much happier.

4.Smile, putting a fake smile can worsen your mood, but thinking positive thoughts and then smiling as a result can make you happier.

5. Meditate, meditation helps you keep your mind focused, calms your nerves and support inner peace. Research shows it can even lead to physical changes in your brain that make you happier.

6. Help others, volunteering can lower your risk of depression and anxiety, and simplifying boost your psychological well-being.

7. Spend time outdoors, simply going outside to get some fresh air and sunshine boosts mood, broadens thinking and improves working memory.

8. Practice gratitude, people who are thankful for what they have are better able to cope with stress, have more positive emotions, and are better able to reach their goals.

9. Plan a vacation, it might be the simple act of planning a vacation can make you happier even if you don’t actually go on one.

10. Shorten your commute, if you can move closer to where you work, or work closer to where you live, do it. A long commute is stressful and draining, even if it allows you to buy a bigger house or have a better job.

These are just somethings you can do every day to maintain a happy joy-flow and to help keep a positive mindset.

By Dr. Mercola

 

How (and why) to stay positive

When faced with setbacks and challenges, we’ve all received the well – meaning advised to “stay positive.” The greater the challenge, the more this glass-half-full wisdom can come across as pollyannaish and unrealistic. It’s hard to find the motivation to focus on the positive when positivity seem like nothing more than wishful thinking.

The real obstacle to positivity is that our brain are hard-wired to look for and focus on threats. This several mechanism served humankind way back when we were hunters and gatherers, living each day with a very real threat of being killed by someone or something in our immediate surroundings. That was eons ago.Today, these mechanism breeds facism and negativity through the mines tendency to wonder until it finds a threat. These “threats” magnify the perceived likelihood that things are going – and / or are going to go – poorly. When the threat is imagined and you spend too much convincing the project you’re working on is going to flop, this magnetism leaves you with a soured view of reality that wreaks havoc in your life.

Travis Bradberry.

A positive mindset

A positive attitude helps you cope more easily with the daily affairs of life, it brings optimism into your life, and make it easier to avoid worries and negative thinking. If you adopt it as a way of life, it would bring constructive changes into your life, and makes them happier, brighter and more successful.

with a positive attitude you see the bright side of life, become optimistic, and expect the best to happen. it is certainly a state of mind that is well worth developing.

By Remez Sasson